C H A N G E

Change is inevitable! It is unable to be avoided, evaded, or escaped and is certain to occur. It is unalterable most of the times. One of the only things consistent in life is change, its ebb and flow, the ups and downs, the ins and outs. Once we stop fighting against change, we can embrace it and let life flow naturally.

C     Change takes Courage! It is an act of bravery. It takes guts to really look at one’s life, evaluate it, and then take action to make the necessary modifications. It also takes courage for our clients to come in or call for sessions. They have done their initial evaluation of different aspects of their life they want change in, or they are plain ‘fed up’ with the consequences of the resonance of their patterns. We collaborate with them and give them the inspiration and the new resonance to experience the changes they want to see in their lives.

H     Happiness is achieved through making the needed changes that we have previously thought insurmountable. Have you ever put off making that phone call or talking to your boss, employee, partner, parents, only to find out that it was a piece of cake. Why do we wait to do those things that our mind thinks are going to ‘not be pleasant’, or ‘not turn out?’ It is because our mind believes our fears are true. Our mind does not know the difference between what is real and what is imagined. I recently came upon “The Work” by Byron Katie. She uses four questions to turn around what you are questioning, which can specifically help with our fears. Here are the questions:
1. Is it true?
2. Can you absolutely know that it is true?
3. How do you react, what happens, when you believe that thought?
4. Who would you be without the thought?
Try it the next time you feel some resistance to communicate with someone that you know in your heart needs to happen. Watch the positive change and feel it in your body. The relief and personal accomplishment is always worth the risk! This reminds me of a quote by Erica Jong, “If you don’t risk anything, you risk even more!” I have used this form of questioning, as a modality with some of my clients and the turn around is amazing!

A     Attitude is paramount, and action is essential! Our attitude determines what we experience in every situation. Think about waiting in line for something. What is your attitude? Are you irritated or are you calm and perhaps reading a good novel while you are waiting? You always get what you put out. Your attitude, even when you are standing up for yourself, can either make or break the outcome. When you catch yourself being irritated, do an experiment and try different things to change it and notice what you experience. You might try breathing deeply in and out through your nose. This activates the parasympathetic nervous system for calm and relaxation. Notice what you experience, and also notice the difference in those around you. Just by changing your attitude, they change.

Your attitude also makes a huge difference when you are making changes in your life. Patience is a virtue. Rome was not built overnight. There is probably a good reason things are taking longer than you thought they would. Think about the times that you looked back on other previous delays and how it all made sense over time. Breathe!

Many people want to make changes but may feel overwhelmed by everything that would have to be done to make it happen. There already is not one moment to spare in their already full life. Let us take moving for example, especially when you have been in the same home for ten years. Just thinking about it feels overwhelming. I have used a wonderful process that helps with overwhelm. Let us say you want to move in six months. Get a poster board and starting on the far right side, write down the moving date. In the middle of the poster board would be three months from now, half of that would be six weeks from now, etc. and today’s date would be on the far left. Starting at the end date and moving to today, write down what would need to be accomplished by when. Soon you will see that what you actually have to do today and even this week is much more attainable that you previously thought. It is very manageable. Action is the key and being consistent will ensure your success!

N     New possibilities can be a by-product of change. Change can be uplifting and exciting. I love the explanation of Chaos Theory. It suggests that within the chaos of our problems or the changes we are going through, especially the ones that we did not expect or are sudden, or even seem to be out of our control, there is actually a new order – something good, better and beyond what we thought was possible. I am reminded of a country song by, Garth Brooks, “Thank God for Unanswered Prayers.” The lyrics, if I recall correctly, were about a man who was praying that his high school sweetheart would be his, which never happened. He is now with his wife, the woman beyond his dreams, better than what he ever thought possible; hence, thank God for unanswered prayers. So, the next time, change feels impossible to handle or a problem seems impossible to cope with, remember this principle and look for the new order, the unanswered prayer and you will find it!

G     Growth is immanent as we embrace change. It can’t not happen. The two go hand in hand. As we go with the flow and make the necessary changes as life presents us opportunities, the growth is natural. If we kick, scream, and resist change, it will kick us from behind every time. If we accept what is, we can take the next step, then the next step after that, until we have reached where the change is heading us. In the meantime, we come into our greatness.

E     Expansiveness is the result! As we use change to our advantage with enthusiasm, we can begin to see that change is actually necessary. Change can now be an avenue to evolve in our consciousness–to become the people we want to become.

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Author: Victoria Benoit, M.C.

Personal Bio I like to think of myself as a fun-loving, optimistic woman up to big things in life. I have a full and rich life. I was raised in Milwaukee with my three siblings who I helped raise and moved to Chicago alone when I was twenty, not knowing anyone. I spent my young adult years there doing ultrasound on pregnant women for eighteen years. In that time, I was married and divorced twice to two wonderful men then moved to Phoenix. I had a work related injury and re-careered as a Licensed Professional Counselor. I soon got frustrated with the lack of results I was getting with my clients and went out on my own to study Resonance Repatterning®, which I have been doing now for the past twenty years. (I know you are doing the math.) :) :) I have a wonderful man in my life. I call him my 'Beloved Bernie'. We have been together nine years now and continue to inspire each other’s greatness! I love to travel from camping to 'all inclusive' five-star resorts and everything in-between. My favorite is tropical beaches. I plan to live on one someday, perhaps Belize. I love dancing, singing, golf, writing, movies and special times with friends. My purpose is to experience love, fulfillment, adventure and joy, and I inspire and empower others’ greatness to live extraordinary lives. My commitment is to live my life from my divine essence of love and truth, making a significant difference in the lives of those I come in contact with. Business Bio Victoria is committed to helping you live a life you love - a life where you can hardly wait to get up and one that is overflowing with love, joy, passion and fulfillment. She has been a Certified Resonance Repatterning® Practitioner since 1994 and former Teacher for fifteen years. She is a Professional Counselor and has used Resonance Repatterning® and eight other methods rather than psychotherapy, with her clients for the past 20 years. The others methods include: Grigori Grabovoi Method, Matrix Energetics®, Scalar Heart Connection™, Soul Memory Discovery, Spiritual Healing for Indigos™, Spiritual Response Therapy®, Thought Field Therapy™, Yuen Method™. She opened the "Center for Extraordinary Outcomes" in 1996 and has a successful full time practice which continually inspires and fulfills her. She has served on the Certification Committee for the Repatterning Practitioners Association and on the Board of Directors for five years providing Repatternings for the Board members as well as writing the “Certification Corner” articles for the Journal. Although is no longer on the Board, she does continue to write articles on various topics for the quarterly Journal. Out of her passion and commitment to help people achieve their goals and dreams, she developed her ‘Heal Your Birth Journey-Heal Your Life’ Workshop, which clears unconscious patterns from conception, through the gestation and during the birth journey. She has been leading this workshop for over six years and has made a huge difference in the lives of many. She has recently developed another workshop called, ‘Heal Your Family System – Heal Your Life’ which she began offering in the fall of 2015. She also penned five books – the first, “What Would Love Do Right Now?” will be available in print and e-book this spring. Publishing these books is her way to make a difference on a larger scale. The other titles are, "Living on the Skinny Branches of Life", Relationship - A Sacred Journey to Your Greatness", "Three Magical Words", "Conversations with the Fairy Realm" and "Adventures with the Fairy Realm". Victoria is available for workshops and in-person and/or phone sessions for individuals, couples, groups, families and businesses. Contact Information: Victoria@ExtraordinaryOutcomes.com www.ExtraordinaryOutcomes.com 602.864.7662

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