“Be” the Change

Change is inevitable! It is the only thing consistent in life. You can either resist it, or embrace it like an adventure. It is not always easy to do, but it is necessary if you want to live an extraordinary life.

One way you can embrace the changes that are occurring in your life is by acknowledging your part in the change. I remember doing a Resonance Repatterning® session on a woman who hated her job and wanted out. She was procrastinating about looking for a new one, even though she really wanted something more rewarding. We identified her unconscious pattern of ‘not deserving better’ and shifted her resonance to deserving a creative outlet for her gifts and talents and getting paid well for them. Lo and behold, when she went into work on Monday, she was fired. She called me irate and blamed me for being fired. I encouraged her to look how powerful she was and how fast the universe provided her with verification of her new resonance.  I reminded her how difficult it was for her to take action to look for what she really wanted in a job and that now was her opportunity to be grateful for the opportunity and embrace it.  I acknowledged her for coming in for a session and taking action on discovering ‘her part’ that was keeping her from her heart’s desire. I encouraged her to see this as a gift and to take advantage of the time she now had to create the ‘job of her dreams’.

Another example could be a partner wanting to move on and leaving the relationship that you have been in for some time. The more you take responsibility for how you caused this or the part you played, rather than blaming the other, the quicker you can be at peace and see the opening you have to grow and learn from the relationship and let them go. Would you really want to be with someone who does not really want to be with you? You could then evaluate what worked and what did not work in the relationship, give yourself time to heal and then prepare to draw to you an even better partner. I am not saying that all this is simple; however, if you embrace the change rather than fighting it, you will have more energy to move forward with ease and grace.

Another concept I like to use in my own life is to ‘be’ the change I am looking for. One day I did an experiment with my father. It seemed to me that when he called me he was reporting how things were going with him and his new family. He would tell me all the things I wished I had done with him when I was young, but since we did not live together, my siblings and I did not get to do many activities. I found myself getting envious of what they were getting that I did not. What was missing for me in his calls was acknowledgment for who I was in his life. So, I started acknowledging him for being such a great father to his other three children and how fortunate they were to get to do all the things they were doing and to have him as a Dad. After just two phone calls, he started asking about me and my life and acknowledged me for being such a great daughter. He also acknowledged me for how much of a difference I was making in my client’s lives. These were things he had not told me before. So, the very thing I thought was missing, I gave him, and in the very giving of it, I experienced acknowledgement and seemingly out of the blue, he gave to me the very thing I was previously missing. It was quite remarkable. The switch was very dramatic. So, if there are qualities you are lacking in relationship with others, ‘be’ that quality with them or bring that quality to the situation and watch how you are actually experiencing the very quality you previously thought was missing. You will be amazed.

            ‘Be’ the change, and you can live an extraordinary life filled with everything you desire – a life where you can hardly wait to get up and one that is overflowing with love, joy, passion and fulfillment.

Lovingly submitted,

Victoria Benoit, M.C.

Victoria has been a Certified Resonance Repatterning® Practitioner since 1994 and former Teacher for fifteen years in Phoenix, AZ. In 1996 she opened the “Center for Extraordinary Outcomes”. As a Licensed Professional Counselor, she has used Resonance Repatterning® and five other methods, rather than psychotherapy, with her clients for the past 20 years. She is available for in-person and phone sessions for individuals, couples, groups, families and businesses.

 

 

Victoria Benoit, M.C.

“Empowering Your Greatness”

 

Center for Extraordinary Outcomes

Transformational Services
7000 N. 16th St. #120 PMB 431
Phoenix, AZ 85020  602-864-7662

www.ExtraordinaryOutcomes.com

Find out about my upcoming events. Join my Newsletter.

 

.

Advertisements

Author: Victoria Benoit, M.C.

Personal Bio I like to think of myself as a fun-loving, optimistic woman up to big things in life. I have a full and rich life. I was raised in Milwaukee with my three siblings who I helped raise and moved to Chicago alone when I was twenty, not knowing anyone. I spent my young adult years there doing ultrasound on pregnant women for eighteen years. In that time, I was married and divorced twice to two wonderful men then moved to Phoenix. I had a work related injury and re-careered as a Licensed Professional Counselor. I soon got frustrated with the lack of results I was getting with my clients and went out on my own to study Resonance Repatterning®, which I have been doing now for the past twenty years. (I know you are doing the math.) :) :) I have a wonderful man in my life. I call him my 'Beloved Bernie'. We have been together nine years now and continue to inspire each other’s greatness! I love to travel from camping to 'all inclusive' five-star resorts and everything in-between. My favorite is tropical beaches. I plan to live on one someday, perhaps Belize. I love dancing, singing, golf, writing, movies and special times with friends. My purpose is to experience love, fulfillment, adventure and joy, and I inspire and empower others’ greatness to live extraordinary lives. My commitment is to live my life from my divine essence of love and truth, making a significant difference in the lives of those I come in contact with. Business Bio Victoria is committed to helping you live a life you love - a life where you can hardly wait to get up and one that is overflowing with love, joy, passion and fulfillment. She has been a Certified Resonance Repatterning® Practitioner since 1994 and former Teacher for fifteen years. She is a Professional Counselor and has used Resonance Repatterning® and eight other methods rather than psychotherapy, with her clients for the past 20 years. The others methods include: Grigori Grabovoi Method, Matrix Energetics®, Scalar Heart Connection™, Soul Memory Discovery, Spiritual Healing for Indigos™, Spiritual Response Therapy®, Thought Field Therapy™, Yuen Method™. She opened the "Center for Extraordinary Outcomes" in 1996 and has a successful full time practice which continually inspires and fulfills her. She has served on the Certification Committee for the Repatterning Practitioners Association and on the Board of Directors for five years providing Repatternings for the Board members as well as writing the “Certification Corner” articles for the Journal. Although is no longer on the Board, she does continue to write articles on various topics for the quarterly Journal. Out of her passion and commitment to help people achieve their goals and dreams, she developed her ‘Heal Your Birth Journey-Heal Your Life’ Workshop, which clears unconscious patterns from conception, through the gestation and during the birth journey. She has been leading this workshop for over six years and has made a huge difference in the lives of many. She has recently developed another workshop called, ‘Heal Your Family System – Heal Your Life’ which she began offering in the fall of 2015. She also penned five books – the first, “What Would Love Do Right Now?” will be available in print and e-book this spring. Publishing these books is her way to make a difference on a larger scale. The other titles are, "Living on the Skinny Branches of Life", Relationship - A Sacred Journey to Your Greatness", "Three Magical Words", "Conversations with the Fairy Realm" and "Adventures with the Fairy Realm". Victoria is available for workshops and in-person and/or phone sessions for individuals, couples, groups, families and businesses. Contact Information: Victoria@ExtraordinaryOutcomes.com www.ExtraordinaryOutcomes.com 602.864.7662

1 thought on ““Be” the Change”

  1. Victoria – Really love this article as it reminds me of all the surprising outcomes that can happen for us when our energy is coherent and we become the change.

    For myself, I notice this especially when driving. If I forgive the road ragers, and selfish bad moves of others, often providing explanations for what is happening (they are on their way to an emergency) etc. I find traffic suddenly flows, other drivers extend spontaneous courtesies to me lettting me in a long line changing lanes for example. Just last week, I was driving back into Toronto on the mighty 401 westbound with no less than 12 lanes in one direction at one point, and a place where I normally am gripping the wheel to make the required lane changes and was surprised to find virtually no traffic behind or ahead of me. It was like I had the road to myself and could easily make the exist.

Please Comment or Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s