Borderline Personality Disorder

Sometimes during the course of one’s practice of Resonance Repatterning, one comes across a number of symptoms involving low self-esteem, or a high level of insecurity. These individuals may have a difficult time staying in loving relationships because of certain extreme behaviours. We would characterise this as non-coherent behaviour, while at the same time the client would have certain intentions which we would characterise as positive intentions that they do not resonate with. So we say that ‘Problems are something we have that we don’t want, and intentions are something we want but don’t have,’ and when we’ve identify that, we look at the underlying Unconscious Patterns, not Subconscious, because it could come from our D.N.A., conception issues, parental issues, etc.

Common problems that appear in people suffering from, Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) include:

  • Frequent displays of anger
  • Unstable self-image
  • Irritability
  • Anxiety
  • Impulsiveness
  • Extreme opinions and judgement of others
  • Passive, aggressive behaviour
  • Suicide threats

Individuals with this condition frequently change their goals and aspirations. They may go through friends quickly or change their sexual orientation.

There may be some risk factors historically, especially in their formative years, such as:

  • Being abandoned as a child or teenager
  • Coming from a seriously dysfunctional family
  • Having a normal childhood disrupted
  • Being a victim of verbal, physical or sexual abuse as a child

Here are some possible scenarios:

  • Improving the quality of your relationships, by identifying what is and isn’t working for you and changing it (Unconscious Pattern)
  • Understanding how your unique personal life’s story may impact you attitudes, thoughts and beliefs in order to facilitate change in those which are ineffective (Positive Intention)
  • Gaining insight into your relationship conflicts (Unconscious Pattern)
  • Learning communication, coping and problem solving skills (Positive Intention)
  • Becoming more confident in your relationships, including yourself, being able to speak up for yourself, set boundaries and build demonstrable resilience (Positive Intention)
  • Helping you become more satisfied with what you have and how to get what you want, if you are not (Problems to Opportunities) Adrian Krauss, M.F.T

Whatever a person speaks has a two-fold effect. One is the Action, and the other is the Reaction. The reaction resounds in and near the speaker and creates the same type of thought-currents in his environment. Thus whatever thoughts, virtuous or wicked, emanate from him, they engender their exact resonance. This is an inviolate and unrelenting law, which operates in connection with both animate and inanimate objects alike. It cannot be erased. [Unless one changes the frequencies] ‘Philosophy of the Masters’ Volume I

Advertisements

Repatterning the Morning After [Live Streaming Video]

World Peace Hologram

Join us for this event November 9th at 10:00am or catch the recording afterwards.  To be included in the field of energy receiving the shift please complete the form.    Read Georgia’s background article
“There’s Got to be a Morning After. 

View original post

How to amplify Solstice energy

Is there something you want but don’t have?

Or something you have that you’d like to change?

You might not know that the powerful energy of Solstice can help bring your dream alive.

But you have to know its secret.

I’ve been testing this method for the past year or so, and find it brings a welcome feeling of relief after chaos and uncertainty.

It has to do with simplicity, and with wrapping the end and the beginning into one just right spark of Light.

SOLSTICE HOW TO

1. Take a moment and step into a space of stillness, ideally on December 21 when the earth pauses before changing the direction of its tilt.

2. Imagine a circle of light surrounding you. Bring all the parts of your dream into the circle with you.

3. Now, (this is the secret) imagine condensing all the parts of your dream into one unified spark of energy.

For example, let’s say you hope to expand your business. The truth is that your ideal customer has a need that only you can fill. That means there is a matching energy, a unity of light that already exists, between your client and your service.

It will serve you to see the client, your service, the need you fill and the reward you receive as one and the same, as being all the same vibrating frequency level, as one simplified harmonic note.

This is the point when there is no difference between the giver and the receiver, or the lover and the beloved, or the healer and the healee: simply a unity of intention.

4. This one compressed energy is the seed of Light you align with at the moment of Solstice. That is the seed of Light, of your dream fulfilled, which is best to sow at the moment of Solstice stillness.

5. Let the condensed seed of Light find a home in the silence of your heart, where your dream will come alive throughout the New Year in a way that is not too big, not too small, but just right for you!

I promise!

May peace, power and prosperity be yours this holiday season!

With love

Gail

 

A WINNING SESSION

Sometimes I forget the goodness I do as a Repatterning practitioner. Fear and “compare-despair” show up and I think I have to have more training, or better credentials, or the reassurance of scholarly articles about psychology, quantum physics or metaphysics.

Today I’d like to revisit the simple basics of what we all are privileged to do as students, practitioners and teachers of Resonance Repatterning.

This is a story about Nellie (not her real name) and just one session.

Nellie walked in my door bringing a powerhouse of energy and chatter. In our initial conversation I learned that she had read, studied and experienced many kinds of traditional and complementary therapies. In fact, she had just retired as a social worker running a rape crisis center.

I wondered if and how I could be of help to this experienced therapist.

Nellie had been feeling increasingly depressed.

As we went into her earlier experiences, seeking the core “seed moment” limiting belief and emotional memory imprint, I learned that she was an incest survivor. Plus there were many kinds of addictions and abuse going back for several generations in her family. She knew all their stories.

What she didn’t know was how she had compensated for this as a child – by becoming a people pleaser in an effort to ward off the abuse. She learned to laugh it away, escaping the pain of disapproval when she didn’t go along with the family’s dysfunctional norms.

Her excessive laughter was part of the mask that hid the pain of being abused and devalued. She had spent a lifetime rescuing others who had the same kinds of pain, without every fully healing her own.

What her heart really longed for, we discovered, was a gentle loving father. She was drawn to a nearby Quaker church but didn’t go because she feared her husband wouldn’t approve. Of course, it was her old limiting belief kicking in; only in her imagination did he disapprove.

In the session, we shifted her resonance from the chaos of abuse and addiction, to resonance with the gentle loving spirit she sought. By the time her session was complete, a more truthful and calmer persona had emerged.

She wrote a week later that she had reconnected with the Quaker church, was meditating regularly and awaking each day, no longer depressed, but with a sense of excitement.

This social worker couldn’t believe that so much change had come about as the result of just one session.

And I thought: all I really did was give her permission to be her own true self.

Maybe that’s all we’re meant to do. Help people escape from the painful errors of their limiting beliefs and step into the higher truth of who they really are.

That, and tell these stories of hope to others.

Do you have a winning session story?  Write it up—If you’d like, I’d be happy to help you get it posted.

Gail Glanville

Delray Beach FL

401 654 1565

5 Important Messages to Help You and Your Children Succeed in Life

In this article, I will list 5 common limiting messages that limit our and our children’s ability to learn and excel. I will then describe a way to free ourselves and our children in order to manifest a happier, more successful life.

Every family has beliefs and rules stored in the family consciousness handed down from generation to generation. We learn these rules very early in life. Even though we may not be consciously aware of these beliefs, we still follow them. Some are beneficial, some are not. Examples of beliefs handed down in my family include: “My children are very beautiful.”—pretty nice. Not so nice– “If I do not serve my husband all the time and make him happy, he will leave me.”

A mother holds up her child.
A mother holds up her child. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

When we honor these rules, even if we are not consciously aware of them, we feel loyal and at peace—no matter what the rule is. When the beliefs limit us, our level of success and enjoyment of life get squelched. We find that we never achieve what we want—because we cannot release ourselves from being loyal to those rules. Here are common 5 limiting beliefs:

Limiting Belief # 1: You are a bad girl or (bad boy).

When a parent or caregiver perceives that a child has done something wrong, they sometimes say “Bad girl.” Or “Bad Boy.” When you think you are bad, you think you are all together bad. People tell a child they are bad in hopes the child will act better. This is not a good way to teach a child to behave. The child, assuming that they are a bad human being, will begin to act that way. The truth is that even when you think you behave badly, you are still a good human being.

Limiting Belief #2: There must be a husband and a wife in the family to raise a healthy child.

We have been taught that children are happier when they have a father and a mother. The truth is that a child can be happy with one parent, with two fathers or two mothers—whether a boy or a girl. All that matters is that we have good parents and a good environment where we feel safe, secure, and where we feel loved.

Limiting Belief # 3: A mother has to stay at home to care for the child.

Some people say that when a mother works and leaves a child with another person, the child will have more problems and feel abandoned by their mother. The truth is whether at home or not, a good parent gives their child a feeling of being beautiful, loved, and valued. What matters is that the child feels beautiful, loved, cared for and nurtured. Whether the parents are at home or not does not matter. That said, it is important that the care giver has the same attitude of valuing the child—not just a babysitter who watches TV.

Limiting Belief #4: Children have to be punished to learn right from wrong.

Spare the rod—spoil the child, the saying goes. Children are sometimes hit, spanked, humiliated or yelled at when they are seen as behaving badly. Punishment does not help children learn. Rather it teaches them to behave badly, to be bullies, tyrants, and to behave in violent, abusive ways. There are only a few instances when force needs to be used—such as when the child is in danger. For those times that force was used upon you, acknowledge that you were an innocent child. Free yourself of that burden of guilt, and without judgment, leave the responsibility to whom it belongs.

Limiting Belief # 5: You have to be a good parent all the time, otherwise you will have bad children.

No one behaves perfectly all the time. When you behave badly to your child, your spouse, or anyone else, say, “I am sorry. I behaved badly.” It can be a huge relief for children to hear, “See—Mommies and Daddies make mistakes.”

Here is a visualization that can help to free ourselves of these detrimental beliefs and patterns: Visualize the family members/care givers from whom you took these beliefs. Say to the them, “I took these beliefs from you but I don’t want them anymore. Please see me with love as I give them back to you.” Visualize these feelings gently returning from you to your elders and your elders lovingly receiving them. Know that your elders are happy to receive them. They know that these false beliefs are not good for you and that once you let go of these beliefs, they can be passed on to wherever they belong.

Sally Herr is a Resonance Repatterner in Portland, Maine who helps people be free of limiting beliefs. She connects with people in person as well as by phone. Her website is NewEraTherapies.com

.